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” Sudden Anger ” that’s my problem. How can I solve this ? ”

He was 40 plus, Father of two Teen age Children, His wife is an Entrepreneur and He works with a busy Bank. Well. We can Guess understand Where that ” Sudden Anger ” comes from ?

I asked him … ” How ‘Sudden’ it is ? ”

He thought for a while and replied ” In few Seconds ”

” Fantastic …At the time of Anger … What you do ? ”

” Mostly I speak harsh and rarely I throw away things whatever I hold or whatever Available to me Next ? FEELING BAD now ”

After saying this he laughed heavily. I laughed back at him.

I asked him …” Harsh words …Hmmm .. Exactly what those words trying to communicate to the one who receives it ? ”

He looked at me straight into the eyes. Thought for a while… Then said ..

” Simple. I am right and You are Wrong ”

Ooopppsss… We both laughed again.

I asked him ..

” Is there a person, ( not you ) in the World always Right ? ”

” No .. not always ” he replied

” If so, In when that person is ” not right ” what he or she has to do with Anger, When it comes ? ”

He came up with a quick reply. Yes. In micro seconds.

” If he or she is ” not right ” how anger comes ? Its only when the person is right, the anger comes in …Isn’t ? ”

I paused for few seconds with a smile on my face then said ..

” Forget about ” not right ” for some time. Now let’s come to ” Being Right “. Shall we ? ”

” Yes yes. ” He replied.

” When that Person is Right …I am wondering why he or she has to hold anger ? ”

He looked at me with a different face and replied .. ” not getting ”

Then he came back in quick seconds ..

” Yes Getting now. When he or she is right, whats the point in holding to anger. Actually when we are right, its a fulfilled feel ”

I asked him again.

” Assuming that You are right and the other Person is Wrong – What can be the action from now on ? ”

He laughed heavy and thought for a while and said …

” You got me. No need of anger. I can just support the other person to make him realise where he or she commits mistakes ”

” Support by what ways ? ”

” More Knowledge & Explanations about the situation where he or she miss to deliver ”

” SO .. WHATS THE LEARNING ? ” I asked him.

” Being Right or Being not right has no connection with anger. Anger is just an added flavour. I can avoid that flavour. ”

We both laughed.

It’s been years. He once called back and said ..

” Thanks Jay. I have started realizing that more and more ” Being not right ” on my sides and started to work on it. Self Realization has replaced Anger “